“She was just so cool, down to earth, kind, loving,” said Rachel Fernandez while holding a picture of her late sister-in-law Linda Amy Dickenson, a day care teacher who gave nicknames to her preschoolers.
“She would help anybody and she loved the children,” Fernandez remembered, who remembers Dickenson as a patient listener committed to family.
“She treated my kids like her own, you know, and she just had that caring personality,” added Fernandez, who is executive director of Maeqtekuahkihkiw Metaemohsak Inc., Woodland Women and serves on the Wisconsin Women’s Council.
Dickenson and Fernandez — both of the Menominee Indian Tribe of Wisconsin — spent time together as friends and family on the rural reservation north of Green Bay.
“She always had me cracking up. She always had a joke. She’s very witty,” Fernandez recalled.
Dickenson eventually relocated from the reservation to Green Bay with her new partner. Fernandez says Dickenson’s life with him was private, but the impact of their 10 year relationship was public.
“She would show up to work with black eyes,” Fernandez shared.
“From him.” Fernandez said. “And she wouldn’t really talk about it.”
According to Fernandez, when Dickenson didn’t show up for work at the day care on the morning of February 24, 2014, her colleagues requested a police welfare check to her home. The officers found the unthinkable by the door.
“She was shot through her left cheek,” Fernandez said, “and the coroner told them that she died in seconds.
“He shot himself — so it was a murder-suicide,” Fernandez said.
The murder left Dickenson’s three children — Vanessa, Kenny and Warren — motherless.
‘It’s tragic all around because he has kids too,” Fernandez added.
She said news of double tragedy spread quickly throughout the tight knit Menominee community.
“They were both from the reservation,” Fernandez said. “They’re both tribal members.”
Fernandez said many Indigenous people follow a code of silence in violence and abuse, stemming from historical trauma during the federal Indian boarding school era.
“Because our children were taken from their homes,” she said, “and they were taught in these boarding schools not to talk about what happened to them.”
Fernandez said she’s also a victim of abuse and trafficking, but has been able to work through her challenges and support other Indigenous people through intergenerational suffering.
“I’m OK to accept forgiveness of myself, and so that really birthed the activist and the advocate in me,” she said.
An empty lot in Neopit marks where Linda Amy Dickenson lived on the Menominee reservation with her children before moving to Green Bay. She lived in a trailer that’s gone now, but Fernandez said her memory is alive forever.
